Are You a Hooker or a Stalker?

hook·er [hook-er]–noun; a person or thing that hooks.

We all do it, have done it, or we might even be doing it right now…thought it might not be what you think… You might be saying, “I would never do that! How dare you!”

Before you get in a bundle of self-righteousness, realize that what I am referring to is behavior that hooks people’s attention. We all have automatic mechanisms installed within us to assist us in hooking the attention of the people in our life in order to get what we think we need from them: attention, love, loyalty, time, money, or validation. Our personal hooks might include humor, wit, drama, sexiness, helpfulness, knowledge, or even compassion.

When we successfully hook someone’s attention, we get a momentary high, a fleeting sense of power from getting a perceived need met. But, just like a drug, its nature leaves us hooked, drained and jonseing for more. The more you resort to hooking to get the artificial jolt of reassurance, the more you become addicted to that rollercoaster ride, and the more disconnected you become to the actual Source of true love, life, and happiness that you are truly needing/wanting/craving. And the true Source, by the way, never runs dry, and is at your disposal 24/7. No hooks required.

The best form of rehab I’ve found to release the hooking addiction is to incorporate the art of stalking.

stalk [stawk] –verb (used without object); to pursue or approach prey, quarry, etc., stealthily.

No, of course I’m not suggesting that you begin peeping through the windows of your favorite celebrity or leaving long-winded, desperate messages on the voice mail of an ex-lover. Stalking as described in Toltec teachings is the practice of acute self-awareness. When you become an expert stalker you begin to closely observe your hooking tendencies without judgment, and can make course corrections as you go.

For example, next time you feel knee-jerk hooking tendencies kick in, pause and ask the question, “Why am I saying this?” “What kind of response am I trying to elicit?” “What need am I trying to fulfill?” And if the hooks kick in anyway, you can observe, “There I go again, trying to hook people’s attention with my humor, knowledge, helpfulness, etc... Oops, I must have forgotten that I am one with God/Goddess/All that is, and there is a more authentic way I can interact. Let me breathe, come back to my center and proceed from an inspired place of divine direction.”

Like pure oxygen being pumped into a smoke-filled room, stalking provides the awareness that allows the hooks to retract, and grace to take place.

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During this month of May, where we celebrate the Beltane fires, Mother’s Day, not to mention Cinco de Mayo, let’s intentionally become so awake and aware that we collectively drop all hooks and proceed throughout our days from an authentic place of heart to heart soul to soul connection to one another…and if we should stumble, let us remind each other, “Oops, you must have forgotten you are whole, perfect, and complete, beautiful and magnificent in every way…oh, yeah, and all your needs are truly already met, and all is truly well.”

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